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Do you and your partner struggle with jealousy? Here are some of the top causes for jealousy.

Do you ever find yourself feeling jealous in your relationship? If so, you’re not alone.  Jealousy can be a common issue in relationships, but it’s important to deal with it in a healthy way.  Let’s discuss some common reasons for jealousy and some helpful tips for overcoming it in your relationship.

At its core, jealousy is a feeling of fear. Whether it’s the fear of losing a loved one, the fear of losing one’s status in a social hierarchy, or simply the fear of being alone, jealousy arises out of some deep-seated anxieties and insecurities. This can be seen most clearly in situations that involve rivalry or competition. For example, if you witness a friend achieving great success in their career while your own career is floundering, you may begin to feel jealous. This is not because you necessarily want to steal their thunder; rather, it stems from insecurities and uncertainties about where you fit into the world.  This is normal and based on our evolution as humans.  

At the root of most jealousy in relationships specifically, is the fear of infidelity and abandonment. Whether we are conscious of it or not, many of us have a deep-seated belief that our partner will eventually abandon us, or that they are secretly unfaithful to us. This sense of insecurity can lead to feelings of jealousy, as we are constantly on the lookout for evidence that our fears are justified.

Part of what makes jealousy so difficult to manage is that it tends to be based on irrational fears and assumptions. For example, if we believe that our partner will leave us for someone else, then we may misinterpret their positive attention towards someone else as a sign that they are about to leave us for good. Furthermore, because jealousy arises from deeply rooted survival instincts, it can be extremely difficult to overcome without an objective third party.

In order to overcome jealousy and cultivate greater confidence and self-assurance, we must first identify the underlying fears that fuel these feelings. Once we are aware of our fears, we can learn to manage them and replace feelings of jealousy with more positive attitudes towards ourselves and others. In this way, we can ultimately move past our feelings of fear and learn to thrive despite any perceived threats to our relationship.

Jealousy can arise even in seemingly healthy relationships, and it can be especially challenging when both partners are experiencing these feelings simultaneously. The key to overcoming romantic jealousy is to first recognize what is causing it and then work together as a couple to address those underlying issues. This might involve going through relationship counseling together or learning more about each other’s needs and insecurities. 

Whether we are aware of them or not, these fears have a profound impact on both our thoughts and our behaviors. They can slowly erode the trust and intimacy we feel with our partner, leaving us feeling disconnected and unhappy. In order to overcome these fears, we must first understand where they come from. Only by putting in the time and effort required to explore ourselves honestly and openly can we begin to chip away at the walls that prevent us from growing together as a couple. With patience and diligence, we can transform negative fear-based patterns into healthier ones that strengthen rather than weaken our relationships. In the end, it is up to each individual to decide whether or not they truly want their relationship to thrive; but by taking control of your fears and working through them together as a team, you can create a stronger connection with your partner that will allow your relationship to flourish for many years to come.


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